So I had my first experience with a lover this year, just a couple of weeks ago! It was beautiful and connected and so needed.
I felt safe and cared for. We created a tantric space, had privacy, a strong connection and a very strong attraction.
When we started to make love I noticed that my clitoris felt COMPLETELY numb. Plus I was feeling numbness or pain in different areas of my yoni- internally and externally.
Luckily as a Tantrica, I knew what was going on. Was I broken? Did my multi-orgasmic body stop working? Could I no longer feel pleasure with someone new??? NO, NO, and NO! I had trauma stuck in my Yoni that needed to be given a safe space to heal and release.
From a Tantric Buddhist standpoint, I believe that no matter what kind of trauma we are experiencing (and we are all experiencing trauma right now) it gets stuck in our genitals (unless we are excellent at releasing it immediately) because our sexual/reproductive area is our highest area of energetic power.
I know SO many women who have experienced something like I did and feel broken. Then they are told by the medical system that they are broken in some way, or that their pleasure doesn’t really matter.
Luckily I knew what was happening and I was able to work on it with my lover so that by the end of our time together my Yoni was feeling total pleasure again. My lover didn’t know how to “heal” me but because I knew what I needed, I could direct him to be part of my healing experience.
I have incorporated much of what I used for my healing and to increase my pleasure into my Sensual Magic Course.
This course is for people who have Yoni’s and want to get more in touch with their pleasure and learn ancient Tantric methods for bringing healing and wellness to their whole lives.
Authentic Tantra is not just about having great sex, it is a holistic healing modality.
I came into this practice already being multi-orgasmic but I was never in a space where I felt l could directly tell my lover that I needed healing, let alone direct them how to do it.
The sex I have is AMAZING because I set up space where amazing sex can happen. I set the stage by knowing my own body well, having deep and honest communication, and then picking a lover who can step into that space fully.
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